Loss that dissolved the ordinary self along with what was lost
The death of someone loved — a parent, child, partner, or close friend — appears as a trigger in roughly one in ten accounts. Grief seems to dissolve the ordinary sense of self alongside what was lost, sometimes opening into something beyond the loss itself.
These accounts often describe awakening not as comfort or resolution of grief but as something that arrived through it — a dissolution of the one who was grieving that revealed what was underneath.
And um so he says, "Well, um I'd say call the police department, but right now department's dealing with a loss because last night one of their officers had a heart attack while on duty and passed away." Well, in our town, that means that 14th of our our police force just died.
One of the eight things that spirits on the other side, wish you knew that, according to Ben, and one of them is as we stay stuck in our grief and loss, our loved ones too stay stuck.
I know when my father died, I didn't know that he had died that day.
My father died on my birthday, so that suggestion was to keep my father's memory alive by continuing to tell this story.
Experience types that appear most often in accounts with this trigger.
Other triggers that co-occur most frequently in the same accounts.